We tend to believe that most opposition comes from others, such as those who grumble about our spouse, a dominating boss, or a screaming motorist. Still, we rarely recognize that we are often our own biggest enemy. So here are some strategies for overcoming self-defeating habits.

1. Stop trying to please everyone. 

It’s impossible to please everyone all of the time. Striving to impress others while rushing around is a significant self-defeating behavior. Trying to satisfy everyone, whether at business or in your relationships, can cost you your health and peace of mind.

2. Accept imperfection.

Accept your flaws. You will never find fulfilment if you pursue perfection. Can you envision great artists like Michelangelo working on the Sistine Chapel for years because it wasn’t quite what he wanted? You will accomplish nothing with that mindset! Imperfections are a natural part of life, and you’re the only one who notices them most of the time.

3. Eliminate bad habits. 

Nowadays, most people have bad digital habits, such as obsessively checking their inbox or social media accounts. Instead, consider how you spend your time. Then, carefully record the minutes and hours to see how much time you squandered on different activities.

4. Face your fears.

Most people are holding back from pursuing a higher purpose because of fear. You can’t fly unless you take a risk, and you can’t take a chance if you’re terrified. Fear does not have to be a physical sensation of anxiety. Procrastination or avoidance can disguise it.

5. Don’t be a lone wolf. Even lone wolves require assistance from time to time. Please don’t be embarrassed to ask for help when needed; a solid, self-imposed sense of independence may be doing more harm than good. Instead, make friends, accept a helping hand, and request help, whether in business or personal life.

6. Leave the guilt behind. 

Allow yourself to appreciate life, regardless of your history. You don’t have to let your past hold you back since people can change and evolve. Some tell us that we must work for someone else and enjoy ourselves only on weekends, but you may break free from this thinking.

Overcoming self-defeating habits doesn’t happen overnight. But with discipline and the help of the above strategies, you can win it, and you will be able to live a happier life.